Often when we think about success, we have in our mind a very specific type of person. Someone who has achieved great things often has something to show for it, not always the things that we might expect, but there are typical success signals we tend to look for.
There are some idioms we use at times “dress the part” and “dress for success.” With both of these ideas the key factor has to do with one’s appearance, and this is something we tend to judge people on. On the surface, we would like to say that we value someone’s character or the things they have done. But usually, it would be too time-consuming for us to do a full assessment, so instead we do a quick look over for success signals.
Some of these success signals have to do with the way that people look. Surface appearance are the most important factor when making a quick surface judgment. These include the way one dresses, the car they drive, the home they live in and sometimes their job. These things are at times easy to judge, if you see someone on the street the first two may be easy to spot.
In some cases it may be true, nice clothes and a title do have something important to say about a person. We can also be sure that some occupations really are a signal of value, though that would be a debatable list of jobs. It could also be necessary that one dresses a certain way because of their job. This could be because of the people they interact with, or from an arbitrary business requirement.
With this idea in mind, it’s important to say, that this isn’t the type of success we should be aiming for. Instead, we should aim to be amazing, amazing at the things we do, the lives we live and the people we are. It might seem counter-intuitive to think we can focus on a new set of goals, but at least we won’t need to “fake it till we make it.”
Being amazing has to do with the people we are and the values we have. Being amazing, in part is as simple as reading books, taking walks and maintaining a healthy diet. With practice, it can get more robust, including considerations for purchases and consequences of them. With knowledge, we can make better choices. Moving forward, you could work on improving yourself, ensuring that you are working towards a set of goals that you’ve defined. Rather than looking rich and successful, you might find more satisfaction in finding someone to start a family with.
Rather than sticking to the superficial goals of the past, we should aim for goals that we can achieve, and goals that will make the world a better place. This may seem like a promise that can’t be kept, but it is not. There are a whole bunch of things you can do that will help you be an amazing person. That said, you might also need to realize that being successful isn’t necessarily being amazing, maybe being amazing is more important than being successful.