November 2016

Why is it Important to be Amazing?

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We live in strange times, what is right is no longer apparent. The values of our society are misdirected and rewarding the worst rather than the best. We live in times where a crazy man on TV can rise to the highest power in the world, with empty words and subtle hate.

We Messed Up

What else can we expect, what other options are there? As a culture, we’ve lost sight of what is right. Even worse, we’ve stopped rewarding good, ensuring it doesn’t grow. The misalignment isn’t something we can blame on anyone, and we can’t point a finger and expect change. The problems of today are systematic and for everyone.

What if this is where we are supposed to be? What if, instead of this being a fluke, this is where we have been directing our arrow? There’s no crazy man with a gun, instead, it is a culture aiming at destructive goals. We wanted this to happen, we all asked to be wealthy, famous and loud. This absurdity isn’t random, in fact, it is what we have been asking for all along.

From this perspective, as a cultural phenomenon of bad goals and poor judgment, the only solution is to change. We can’t expect our leaders to do it, they’ve already proven that they are unable or unwilling to do what is right. No change can come from them, they’re fixed in their ways.

Being Amazing Is Easy

Being amazing is doing right, making wise choices and doing what is necessary for a better life. By shopping local and making better food choices you are creating a better environment. With smart purchases, you help yourself and the economy by avoiding debt. When you skip the things you don’t need, you create less waste. When you read books, you learn about the world and can make better choices.

The best part about being amazing is that it is contagious. When people see you setting a good example, they follow your lead. Your goal is to help the people around you be more astonishing. By doing the right thing, you reward doing the right thing. When we work to make ourselves better, people follow, and they set an example for everyone else around them.

Then It All Changed

We are at a tipping point, the world is tipping, and it is ready to slip onto the other side. When things are ‘bad’ people prepare for things to get better. Sometimes we need nudging or inspiration from those around us. The more amazing people we see, the more willing we are to be amazing ourselves.

Don’t be tricked, there isn’t a quick fix. It is a slow process, one that starts with you. Change isn’t something our world leaders will make happen, that isn’t how they operate. Instead, they follow our lead, so we must be the change we want to see.

To make the world more amazing, you need to start with yourself, then the world will follow.

Skip the Soylent, Make a Meal Instead

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Modern technologies try to make our lives easier. We can order liquid meal replacements online, or log on to services that connect us with a restaurant and delivery person to bring food to our doorstep. On the surface, these seem like noble causes, solutions to our time limitation problems and a way to make our lives easier and less complicated.

These technologies intend to make things easier, but is that the case? Are our lives getting easier if we become dependent on someone or something for our most basic food requirements? There is value in occasional convenience, and you don’t want to make every meal, you don’t have the time. But how often is too often? How much does it take before it becomes a problem?

Making Food Is Scary

The alternative is taking responsibility for yourself and preparing your meals. This means you need to know how to make food, but that is something you can learn. It also means you need to go to the grocery store and buy ingredients, which might be scary. You are going to need time to make your meals at first, it will be slow, but with practice, it gets easier. All in all, time is the most significant challenge, you need to be willing to use that limited resource.

But think about the benefits, when you make your meals you are saving money, rather than paying a chief, tip, delivery fee and markup, you only pay for the ingredients. Next, rather than being in a black box relationship with food, not knowing what you are eating, you know exactly what you are consuming. Further, you may have already formed a negative relationship with food, in that you are accustomed to mediocre junk food.

But The Rewards

On the other hand, as you learn to cook you gain a valuable skill, you gain independence, and you get the satisfaction of an accomplishment – learning to cook and being self-sufficient. Also, you will always know what you are eating because you made it yourself. The quality at first, at least in the sense of taste might not match, but in time will improve and may become better than what you buy. Likewise, by seeing what you are eating, you become inspired to make better choices about your diet going forward. Finally, think about the money, how much would you save in a year, if every meal costs a fraction of what it used to?

This is the alternative, and you can save money, know what you are eating, learn a skill, find some purpose and be more connected to what you eat. But to do this, you need to be willing to do the more difficult thing, and you need to be ready to accept the responsibility for your consumption. Is it any worse, it indeed doesn’t seem that way, if anything it is magnitudes better. Your health, wallet, habits, and sense of self-worth will all benefit from this choice.

It Is Not All Bad

Don’t take this the wrong way, and there are probably times to go out for dinner, spend time with friends and build relationships. But for all the other times, which is most of the time, making your meals will be the better more healthy option. Next time you get tempted to order delivery or drink a meal, consider the alternative, consider the possibility of making your food. Sure it will be a little inconvenient, but in the long term, it will be worth it in so many ways.

Go forward and make life more difficult, we are here to help you along the way, and we will talk about more things like this.

Aim To Be Amazing Rather Than Looking Successful

fancy car vs family

Often when we think about success, we have in our mind a very specific type of person. Someone who has achieved great things often has something to show for it, not always the things that we might expect, but there are typical success signals we tend to look for.

There are some idioms we use at times “dress the part” and “dress for success.” With both of these ideas the key factor has to do with one’s appearance, and this is something we tend to judge people on. On the surface, we would like to say that we value someone’s character or the things they have done. But usually, it would be too time-consuming for us to do a full assessment, so instead, we do a quick look over for success signals.

We Look For Signals

Some of these success signals have to do with the way that people look. Surface appearance is the most important factor when making a quick surface judgment. These include the way one dresses, the car they drive, the home they live in and sometimes their job. These things are at times easy to judge if you see someone on the street the first two may be easy to spot.

In some cases it may be true, nice clothes and a title do have something important to say about a person. We can also be sure that some occupations really are a signal of value, though that would be a debatable list of jobs. It could also be necessary that one dresses a certain way because of their job. This could be because of the people they interact with, or from an arbitrary business requirement.

What Type Of Success

With this idea in mind, it’s important to say, that this isn’t the type of success we should be aiming for. Instead, we should aim to be amazing, amazing at the things we do, the lives we live and the people we are. It might seem counter-intuitive to think we can focus on a new set of goals, but at least we won’t need to “fake it till we make it.”

Being amazing has to do with the people we are and the values we have. Being amazing, in part is as simple as reading books, taking walks and maintaining a healthy diet. With practice, it can get more robust, including considerations for purchases and consequences of them. With knowledge, we can make better choices. Moving forward, you could work on improving yourself, ensuring that you are working towards a set of goals that you’ve defined. Rather than looking rich and successful, you might find more satisfaction in finding someone to start a family with.

New Goals

Rather than sticking to the superficial goals of the past, we should aim for goals that we can achieve, and goals that will make the world a better place. This may seem like a promise that can’t be kept, but it is not. There are a whole bunch of things you can do that will help you be an amazing person. That said, you might also need to realize that being successful isn’t necessarily being amazing, maybe being amazing is more important than being successful.

But know what it takes to be amazing can be challenging at time, we will talk about this going forward.